The Healing Power of Strong Shoulders

The Healing Power of Strong Shoulders

When I was growing up, I was really self-conscious of my shoulders. I hated how “imbalanced” my body felt with such broad shoulders and such skinny hips, and I vehemently avoided anything like cap sleeves that accentuated shoulders. I remember a time in middle school when my mother told me…

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A Therapy Swan Song: Two(ish) Years of Learning to be Brave

On Monday, my therapist said she thinks we’ve reached the “maintenance” stage of my sessions. That basically means that we’ll do a check-in at the end of the month and, as long as I feel comfortable and my progress has maintained, I can move to scheduling on an “as-needed” basis….

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Yes, Everyone “Does” Vulnerabilty. No, You Can’t Decide You Don’t.

The first time I watched one of Brene Brown’s shame-resilience TED Talks was the first time I felt I truly understood where so many of my struggles with anxiety came from. I remember going home to Boyfriend and talking about what I’d learned, to which he flat-out replied,…

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Lies Society Tells Us: Vulnerability is (NOT) Weakness

When I first started guiding Boyfriend through the process of Supporting A Partner With An Eating Disorder, he struggled with expressing the softness I needed during times of stress and frustration. Navigating anorexia recovery and major depression and general anxiety disorder comes with a lot of feelings, and I come…

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On Scarcity Culture: The Never Enoughs

I’m going to start by saying I suck at vulnerability. Everything I talk about in this series is something I am actively working on (and often failing at), because the concept of “daring greatly” is hard. Challenging cultural norms that encourage you to stay submerged in your deficiencies is exhausting,…

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